Desire differences are very common in couples. They can also be a huge source of frustration and even lead to a sexless relationship. The initiator gets tired of pursuing and the gatekeeper keeps the gate closed. Most of my clients struggle with desire differences which can lead to partners feeling not wanted and invalidated. The person with the low desire feels like something is wrong with them and as if they need to have sex out of obligation, the quality of sex isn’t fulfilling in these dynamics. 

Sexless relationships can start slowly or start suddenly. The reasons for the sexless relationship vary but a sexless relationship can be very damaging and lead to resentment. Clients want to have an intimate friend back and sex is important for pair bonding. We can work together to determine how to create an intimate bond in the relationship. 

It is incredibly damaging for a man to experience erectile challenges. I see an increase in men with performance anxiety which worsens over time. You don’t have to live with erection challenges as we can work on reducing your anxiety to help you perform. If your ED is caused by medical factors therapy can help you learn to deal with it and find additional ways of experiencing pleasure. 

Most of our sex education is provided with a focus on anatomy, prevention of disease, and prevention of pregnancy. We are not educated on intimacy and how to have pleasure. Sex remains a topic that isn’t discussed in most circles and friendships, which leaves people trying to find information on their own or going without. I provide sex education to increase intimacy, pleasure, and confidence in one’s sexuality.

Infidelity whether with a partner or with virtual access to people has been increasing. Infidelity is incredibly damaging in a relationship and fractures the trust, in my practice couples complete a disclosure session in which the couples come together to learn about all of the affairs and some of the details. This is necessary to work on repairing the bond. 

One of the biggest issues in a relationship is communication. Most people are not even talking about their sex life with their partners, which allows for so much shame to grow. In therapy we can work on how to communicate about sensitive topics. 

Low confidence in the bedroom limits pleasure for both partners. Imagine how freeing it would be to not worry about how you look or if you are doing something right. You could focus on having fun with yourself or your partner. When someone is insecure they look for evidence that supports that and they end up finding it. When they feel secure they get to turn off all of those thoughts and fears and learn how to enjoy the sensations and connection. 

Performance issues such as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation can be treated with psychotherapy. Let’s work together to reduce the performance issues so you can have a fulfilling sex life again.